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Daniela Capistran's avatar

such a sad feeling!!

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aster's avatar

bittersweet actually

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lisha<3's avatar

this reminds me of this quote. people aren't meant to be homes, they're meant to be rivers, flowing in and out of our lives. but that doesn't mean we can't cherish the connection for what it was at one point in time. i loved reading this<3

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aster's avatar

indeed life has its way of teaching us lessons <3 glad u loved it.

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The light you can't hold's avatar

This. I feel like my circle has gotten so so so so small as an adult.

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Erica Wheadon's avatar

I don't know shit, but I feel things too. I need that on a shirt. And 'strangers with history' - oof.

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aster's avatar

exactly!!!

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letters i'll never send's avatar

oh my gosh yes. the invisible string is true. sometimes there are those people that are just always there, even when its passive. usually those people are the ones that understand that life goes on and relationships pass and that sometimes it isn't deep. growing alongside one another, sometimes near sometimes far, but never codependent

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aster's avatar

mind you the magic and everything in between of that concept is born out of love too

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hiyessa's avatar

I can really resonate with this write up! Completely understand the losing of friendships because the effort you pour out isn’t reciprocated. This can get tiring and it also makes me question whether or not the friendship is still worth keeping. At the end of the day, it’s always quality over quantity. It’s better to have one genuine friend who constantly sticks with you than 5 who are only around occasionally. Losing someone will always hurt. But there will also always be satisfaction that comes with moving past it. And just as you said, the memory of having these people is enough. They provided us with the best moments of our lives, and this can’t be taken for granted. The world is huge, and there will always be empty seats for people we haven’t met yet. Thank you for this!

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aster's avatar

and we deserve better!!

“The world is huge, and there will always be empty seats for people we haven’t met yet” will always remember this, mhie. thanks 😘

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agostina alterini's avatar

“I hope I don’t mess it up” this is so relatable and beautiful

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aster's avatar

heheh and i mean it from the moon and back <3

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Jolene Thibodeaux's avatar

This flowed beautifully like I was on the porch listening… seasons move I always find I like to go into a little cycle of grief as they do feels natural to me like healing signal great share

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aster's avatar

awee

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Victoria Ekpedoho's avatar

“Sometimes they disappear “

It probably doesn’t mean the same to everyone but it resonated with me in the context of death.

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aster's avatar

🫂

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julie's avatar

i honestly loved every word so much, because i feel all of it so deeply.

i used to think i wouldn’t survive losing someone, any kind of relationship ending.

but the older i get, the more i realize how natural and even necessary those "goodbyes" can be.

we’re not as dependent on others as we think we are!!!

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aster's avatar

yesss i like what u said on the latter...

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julie's avatar

🤍

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Daniela's avatar

This post is going to stick with me. I've had friendships that ended decades ago reappear in my dreams. It shows that does connections had a lasting effect.

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aster's avatar

i still think of em too.. sometimes it's lovely to think of the past memories we share from them in the past.

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emily's avatar

the part about family hit hard. what a beautiful piece of writing <3

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aster's avatar

thank you for appreciating this, emily :)))

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Margchelina's avatar

I learned this lesson too. And have accepted this fact by now. Still, it can be painful sometimes. And family... yes...things change.

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